Some friends and I were discussing getting older, losing weight, getting fit, changing bodies and inevitably, plastic surgery.
I know many people who have lost a significant amount of weight and made the decision to have some plastic surgery to remove excess skin or just to do a final polishing of their hard work with a little nip and tuck.
Right after the birth of my first daughter, I started talking about the future tummy tuck I would be planning. Then, after c-section #2, I was pretty certain that my stomach would never, ever, go back to any sort of flat surface. When you must have a vacuum, forceps and then several pairs of hands trying to wedge a tight baby out (yes, in a c-section!) it’s a foregone conclusion that your stomach isn’t going to just bounce back!
The plan was to get to my goal weight and revisit that conversation.
Some of my friends and acquaintances have had various procedures done, from liposuction to breast lifts to tummy tucks to well, “just” Botox. We’ve had some open discussion and debate about the whole “going under the knife” question.
One of my good friends is studying to be a nurse, and she asked, “Why would you willingly put yourself through major surgery, risking infection and even DEATH just to have a flat stomach?”
That’s a good question.
I’ve always maintained that I would never do Botox or Restylane or anything to my face. That whole frozen face thing creeps me out, and I find most people end up looking like scared clown versions of their old selves. That’s just me.
But, would I go for the tummy tuck, after all?
I’m not really sure at this point. I know people who just live with their excess skin and have no surgery plans to remove it. I know others who opted to lose it as soon as possible. My stomach area is my problem area, and to have it flat and not be in the way in terms of clothes shopping, or just in terms of increased confidence and self-esteem? I’m not sure.
I admit to scouring before and after pictures from local surgeons. I’ve watched countless YouTube videos following people along who have had the procedure. On one hand it makes me feel excited to have the same result, on the other it terrifies me.
I’m not quite at goal weight just yet and while I’m pretty happy overall, my stomach, I’m not gonna lie….still gives me pause.
I’m a total believer in embracing ourselves and loving ourselves just as we are, conceptually. Yet, I still struggle with this desire to have the flat tummy of my long ago dreams.
What are your thoughts on the plastic surgery debate? Is it a Hollywood created craze seeking unattainable perfection, or do you land in the “to each their own” camp? I’d love to hear some thoughts from the trenches on this one!